Dear Mom and Dad: Cool It
The Human Side of Raising Children
New Boating Laws for 2020
Oregon Capital Insider Index: This week by the numbers
Links: Things to Think About & Things to Do
History is the witness that testifies to the passing of time; it illumines reality, vitalizes memory, provides guidance in daily life and brings us tidings of antiquity.
~Cicero (106 BC – 43 BC), Pro Publio Sestio
In selecting men for office, let principle be your guide. Regard not the particular sect or denomination of the candidate — look to his character. ~Noah Webster
1. Positive Visualization
~The Pacific Institute 2012
What do you know about visualization? Have you heard people talking about learning how to do it? Well, here’s something you should know. You don’t have to learn how to visualize. Visualization is something all of us do all the time, either positively or negatively.
What you can learn is that if you want to improve the quality of your life, visualization is the way to eliminate negative and increase positive thoughts. Now the term visualization may be a little misleading. Some people do see clear, colorful images when they visualize, but for others it’s really something they hear, and for others something they sense or feel. The precise way it works for you doesn’t matter so much as how vivid it is and how much emotion and clarity you associate with it.
Positive visualization helps you get comfortable with a new reality you are creating for yourself and move forward quickly with goals. It also helps you decide between alternative courses of action – you choose those that fit in with your vision and avoid those that don’t.
So, those of you who are heading off to school shortly, what will you visualize? Short-term, it may be success in your classes, and long-term that degree. Will you visualize paying attention in class and absorbing all there is to learn, or will you visualize lunch breaks and free time after school? Will you visualize walking across that stage to receive your diploma at graduation? And ultimately, will you visualize that job or career that is the culmination of your education?
One important piece to remember is that visualization, or imagination, tends to become reality. Since this is the case, isn’t it better to focus your visualizations on positive ends? The human mind is incredibly creative and powerful. It is up to each of us to channel that creativity toward constructive objectives and one vital path is through positive visualization.
2. Dear Mom and Dad: Cool It
By Karissa Niehoff and Peter Weber
If you are the mother or father of a high school athlete here in Oregon, this message is primarily for you.
When you attend an athletic event that involves your son or daughter, cheer to your heart’s content, enjoy the camaraderie that high school sports offer and have fun. But when it comes to verbally criticizing game officials or coaches, cool it.
Make no mistake about it. Your passion is admired, and your support of the hometown team is needed. But so is your self-control. Yelling, screaming and berating the officials humiliates your child, annoys those sitting around you, embarrasses your child’s school and is the primary reason Oregon has an alarming shortage of high school officials.
It’s true. According to a recent survey by the National Association of Sports Officials, more than 75 percent of all high school officials say “adult behavior” is the primary reason they quit. And 80 percent of all young officials hang up their stripes after just two years of whistle blowing.
Why? They don’t need your abuse.
Plus, there’s a ripple effect. There are more officials over 60 than under 30 in many areas. And as older, experienced officials retire, there aren’t enough younger ones to replace them. If there are no officials, there are no games. The shortage of licensed high school officials is severe enough in some areas that athletic events are being postponed or cancelled—especially at the freshman and junior varsity levels.
Research confirms that participation in high school sports and activities instills a sense of pride in school and community, teaches lifelong lessons like the value of teamwork and self-discipline and facilitates the physical and emotional development of those who participate. So, if the games go away because there aren’t enough men and women to officiate them, the loss will be infinitely greater than just an “L” on the scoreboard. It will be putting a dent in your community’s future.
If you would like to be a part of the solution to the shortage of high school officials, you can sign up to become a licensed official at HighSchoolOfficials.com. Otherwise, adult role models at high school athletic events here in Oregon are always welcome.
(Editor’s note: Karissa Niehoff is Executive Director of the National Federation of State High School Associations and Peter Weber is Executive Director of the Oregon School Activities Association.)
“Volunteering is the ultimate exercise in democracy. You vote in elections once a year, but when you volunteer, you vote every day about the kind of community you want to live in.” — Unattributed
3. The Human Side of Raising Children
If you are a parent or grandparent, you know there are plenty of rules for raising kids. Today, let’s consider why ignoring these rules can sometimes be a good idea.
Some years ago, in his book, How to Parent, Dr. Fitzhugh Dodson said that, “Raising a child is a human relationship, and human relationships cannot be reduced to a set of rules.” There is an inherent truth in that statement.
Rules are only guidelines, and both you and your child are unique. Each of you is a product of a special combination of genes and environment that has never existed before. What’s more, you have a special relationship with each of your children that is different from the relationship of any other two people on this planet.
So, avoid the mistake of trying to fit this relationship into any preconceived idea of what it is “supposed to be” like. Refrain from dogmatically following a set of rules, even when the rules are written by a so-called “expert.” (Remember, expertise does not mean “perfection.”) And, don’t try to force your child to conform to someone else’s idea of what she or he should be.
The most important thing you can do for your children or grandchildren is to offer them stability, guidance and support while they explore, and learn to realize, the unique potential self which is unfolding within them.
You can reinforce their efforts to achieve worthwhile goals, you can set reasonable limits, and you can remain flexible. But most of all, you can make sure they know that you recognize and respect them for the goodness that resides within each of them. ~The Pacific Institute 2014
4. New Boating Laws for 2020
The 2019 legislative session was a busy one in which seven bills were introduced by the agency. All of these passed, including the agency’s operating budget. Most of the legislative concepts were in response to issues brought forward from stakeholder groups, boating clubs, advocacy groups, and agency partners. There were also several non-agency bills sponsored by legislators on behalf of interest/environmental groups or private citizens that affect Oregon boaters. One bill allows the Marine Board to consider land use planning (Goal 15) in any future rulemaking on boat operations on the Willamette River (HB 2351). Another, HB 2352, creates a towed watersports education program within the Marine Board and requires an additional education endorsement for anyone engaged in wake surfing and wakeboarding activities on the Willamette River (Newberg Pool, RM 30-50) in Clackamas, Marion and Yamhill Counties.
Here’s a run-down of the new legislation and some of the changes coming to recreational boaters beginning January 1, 2020:
- To minimize the spread of aquatic invasive species, motorized boaters will be required to “pull the plug” when leaving a waterbody and during transport to allow any water-holding compartments to drain (transporting live crab or fish is against the law per ODFW regulations). The fine for failure to pull the plug is $30 for non-motorized boats and $50 for motorized boats and is a Class D violation. Law enforcement was also given the authority to order a person back to an aquatic invasive species boat inspection station if a boater bypasses the mandatory boat inspection station and the station is within five miles. If a person fails to go back to the station for an inspection/decontamination, they can be charged with a Class C misdemeanor ($1,250 and or 30 days in jail). Protecting our waterways from aquatic invaders is the goal and compliance with boat inspection station requirements is vital to achieving it.
- Boat Rental Business (Livery) registration will be required so the agency can gather more robust information about the type of boats being rented and provide businesses with applicable boating safety education and outreach materials for employees to pass along to their customers. Better-informed customers help make the waterways safer and help protect the rental business from liability. There is no charge associated with registration, but failure to register is a Class B violation ($265 fine). Current motorboat registration discounts apply.
- There’s no longer a 60-day boating safety education card exemption for new boat owners. Taking a boating safety course and carrying a boating safety education card is now required when operating a motorboat over 10 hp, regardless of when the boat was purchased. A new boat owner will need to take an approved boating safety education course and carry a boater education card before taking the boat out for a spin, just like a motor vehicle requires a valid driver’s license. Most states have some form of mandatory education requirement and out-of-state boating safety education cards are accepted; however, if the resident state doesn’t have boating safety education, the boat operators will need the Oregon boater safety education card. The mandatory education program was first enacted in 1999, so the program is now 20-years old.
- The definition of reckless boating was updated to reflect the motor vehicle code. The Marine Board and the courts can now suspend a boating safety education card if the operator is convicted for reckless boating or boating under the influence of intoxicants (BUII). Suspensions allow for up to one year for convictions of reckless boating and 1-3 years for BUII. On another note, the fine was reduced for not carrying a properly fitting life jacket from a Class B violation ($265) to a Class D violation ($115), to mirror a seat belt infraction in the motor vehicle code.
- Motorized boat titles and registrations were increased by 33%, or $1.45 and fees are combined into a flat fee based on boat length. Title fees will increase to $75 and the boating safety education card will increase to $20. Replacement boating safety education cards will increase to $16.
- The Waterway Access Permit replaces the Aquatic Invasive Species Prevention Permit for non-motorized boats 10’ long and longer. Permits are available online through ODFW’s eLicensing System and beginning January 1, 2020, the one and two-year permits are available through the Marine Board’s Boat Oregon Store. There are three permit options: one week (7-days) for $5 (through ODFW), one year for $17, and two years for $30. Rental businesses for non-motorized boats can receive bulk discounts for Waterway Access permits. A portion of the revenue will continue to support aquatic invasive species prevention program and new revenue will support non-motorized boating facility grants to facility providers for improvements or development of non-motorized boating access.
There are two things I want you to make up your minds to: First, that you’re going to have a good time as long as you live. I have no use for the sour-faced man – and next, that you’re going to do something worthwhile, that you’re going to work hard and do the things you set out to do.” ~Theodore Roosevelt
5. Oregon Capital Insider Index: This week by the numbers
Created: 26 December 2019 | Written by Oregon Capital Insider, Here are 10 numbers that illustrate some of this week’s big, and small, Oregon news stories.
- 4,000,000: People in the U.S. who could be displaced by one meter of sea level rise, according to OPB.
- 4,191,000: Approximate population of Oregon in 2018, according to the U.S. Census Bureau.
- 192: Yurts in the Oregon State Parks system, according to The Oregonian.
- 1993: Year the state started installing the sturdy tents in its parks.
- $795,000,000: Amount the expansion of Interstate 5 in the Rose Quarter could cost, according to an internal ODOT report obtained by Willamette Week.
- 500,000: Lights on display at the Umpqua Valley Festival of Lights, according to Travel Oregon
- 1,400,000: Oregonians who will travel 50 miles or more for the holidays, according to AAA Oregon.
- 1,300,000: Among those travelers who will drive to get to their destinations.
- $3.05: Average per-gallon price of gas in Oregon as of Dec. 23.
- $2.99: Average per-gallon price of gas at Christmas in 2018.
6. Links: Things to Think About & Things to Do
I am only one, but I am one. I cannot do everything, but I can do something; and what I should do and can do, by the grace of God, I will do. ~E.E. Hale