Dear Mom and Dad: Cool It
Would you care to dance? Learn the steps!
You have a story to tell! It’s time to share it
Effectively Managing Anger
Oregon Capital Insider Index: This week’s news, by the numbers
Links: Things to Think About & Things to Do
1. Dear Mom and Dad: Cool It
By Karissa Niehoff and Peter Weber
If you are the mother or father of a high school athlete here in Oregon, this message is primarily for you.
When you attend an athletic event that involves your son or daughter, cheer to your heart’s content, enjoy the camaraderie that high school sports offer and have fun. But when it comes to verbally criticizing game officials or coaches, cool it.
Make no mistake about it. Your passion is admired, and your support of the hometown team is needed. But so is your self-control. Yelling, screaming and berating the officials humiliates your child, annoys those sitting around you, embarrasses your child’s school and is the primary reason Oregon has an alarming shortage of high school officials.
It’s true. According to a recent survey by the National Association of Sports Officials, more than 75 percent of all high school officials say “adult behavior” is the primary reason they quit. And 80 percent of all young officials hang up their stripes after just two years of whistle blowing.
Why? They don’t need your abuse.
Plus, there’s a ripple effect. There are more officials over 60 than under 30 in many areas. And as older, experienced officials retire, there aren’t enough younger ones to replace them. If there are no officials, there are no games. The shortage of licensed high school officials is severe enough in some areas that athletic events are being postponed or cancelled—especially at the freshman and junior varsity levels.
Research confirms that participation in high school sports and activities instills a sense of pride in school and community, teaches lifelong lessons like the value of teamwork and self-discipline and facilitates the physical and emotional development of those who participate. So, if the games go away because there aren’t enough men and women to officiate them, the loss will be infinitely greater than just an “L” on the scoreboard. It will be putting a dent in your community’s future.
If you would like to be a part of the solution to the shortage of high school officials, you can sign up to become a licensed official at HighSchoolOfficials.com. Otherwise, adult role models at high school athletic events here in Oregon are always welcome.
(Editor’s note: Karissa Niehoff is Executive Director of the National Federation of State High School Associations and Peter Weber is Executive Director of the Oregon School Activities Association, c.2018)
2. Would you care to dance? Learn the steps!
Do you love to dance? Are you looking for an enjoyable way to exercise? Beginning this month, Columbia Gorge Community College non-credit community education classes will teach you the steps. The college offers courses in Beginning Tap, Jazzallet and Mindfulness Movement. Cost is $70 per course. Classes meet once a week for 12 weeks. Check online at cgcc.edu/community-ed for times and to register. Or call (541) 506-6011 for more information.
3. You have a story to tell! It’s time to share it
Everyone has a story to tell. Maybe it’s your own. Maybe it’s someone else’s. Maybe it’s an issue you’re passionate about. This fall, learn how to share stories with others.
Columbia Gorge Community College is offering the non-credit class “Writing: Introduction to Creative Nonfiction Writing.” The class meets every Tuesday from Sept. 24 to Nov. 12 at the college’s Hood River – Indian Creek Campus from 6 to 7:30 p.m. Cost is just $75. To register, visit cgcc.edu/community-ed or call (541) 506-6011.
4. Effectively Managing Anger
Anger is a normal emotion and all of us feel angry every now and then. If you use it well, anger can be the fuel that drives effective and useful action. But if you use it badly, it can result in needless pain, destruction and frustration. Very few situations get remedied successfully with explosive anger.
How you express your anger is especially important if you have children around, because whether you like it or not, they will use you as a role model as they learn how to handle their own strong feelings.
Even if you were raised around people who routinely blew up and lost control of themselves whenever they got mad at each other, you can learn to do it differently yourself. You don’t have to lose control, just because that is all you’ve seen in your life.
When you feel that your rights are being ignored or that someone is treating you with disrespect, assert yourself calmly, politely, but firmly. When you do, you will be giving your children a wonderful example to follow and you will feel good about your ability to take control of your feelings instead of letting them take control of you.
Daily mental rehearsals, where you picture the way you intend to behave, will help this new behavior become almost automatic for you. Affirm yourself in words as you create these mental pictures, saying something like, “I handle potentially stressful situations quietly and calmly, even when I feel angry.” “Before I say anything, I take a deep breath, let it out slowly, and compose my calm responses as the air leaves my body.”
If your intention is clear and you use mental rehearsal daily, you will be very pleased with the results. Everyone else will notice, and their estimation of you will rise, as your confidence in yourself goes up, as well. It’s a win-win all the way around! ~The Pacific Institute
5. Oregon Capital Insider Index: This week’s news, by the numbers
Here are 10 numbers that illustrate some of this week’s big, and small, Oregon news stories.
- 18: Months Oregon’s first Public Records Advocate, Ginger McCall, had been on the job before announcing this week that she was stepping down due to political pressure from Gov. Kate Brown’s office.
- 1: Transgender people who have run for state legislative office in Oregon as of this week, according to Paige Kreisman, a trans woman who filed to run for a state house seat in Portland on Thursday.
- 161: Active volcanoes in the United States, according to The New York Times.
- 7: Number, out of the ten most dangerous volcanoes in the U.S., that are located in the Cascade Range.
- 6: Number, out of those seven, that are not “adequately monitored,” the Times reports.
- $37 million: Amount the Oregon Lottery expects to profit from sports gaming in the first three years of the application’s debut, according to The Oregonian. The Lottery, which originally hoped to roll out the sports betting application in time for the start of football season, is now delaying it until the end of September or mid-October.
- 39: Percent of Oregon cannabis users who used a vaporizer pen to smoke pot in the past year, according to Willamette Week. The Trump administration has moved to ban flavored “vape pens” in an effort to cut down on youth vaping.
- 6: Deaths in the U.S. connected to vaporizer pens this year.
- 1,855: Oregonians who died from alcohol-related causes in 2016, according to The Oregonian.
- $600 million: Sales of Oregon wine in 2018, according to The Oregonian.
6. Links: Things to Think About & Things to Do
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